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On the morning of February 23rd, I learned that a student on my team suddenly lost her father. While she was not my student, I realized that her older brother was a former student of mine, and I felt compelled to help the family in some way. Once some time had passed, I reached out to the student’s mother, and she gave me permission to move forward with my idea.
Craig was a devoted father of three children. He worked most of his career in software sales, the last 14 years for IBM. A lover of sports, especially football, Craig spent some of his free time coaching for the Algonquin Argonauts and the Junior Eagles Football Clubs. Starting in late July 2016, he began to suffer from problems in his nerves. He saw many specialists, who all believed that the problems he was having were nothing more than nerve related as a result doing yard work. In late August, Craig had a seizure at home. While in the hospital, he had a CT scan which showed a “gray area” on his brain. The following day, Craig saw a neurologist and had an MRI completed. In a few short hours, Craig and his family learned what was causing his nerve problems. Craig had a brain tumor on his left hemisphere which caused numbness in his right leg. He had a follow up appointment that day to see the top neurologist at UIC. Brain surgery to remove the tumor was scheduled to take place in two days. Fortunately, the surgery went well and only took a few hours to complete, and Craig was up and walking the following day. He was determined to heal quickly, so he could get home to his family. Approximately four days after his surgery, Craig was moved to a rehab facility to further his recovery. He spent five days learning exercises that would strengthen his legs and get them moving back to normal. While recovering in rehabilitation, he learned that the growth removed from his brain was a Glioblastoma tumor, a very aggressive form of cancer.
When Craig returned home, he rested a few weeks before beginning chemo and radiation treatments. During this time, Craig believed strongly he would recover and he was adamant his family not share any information about his health with anyone outside the family because he “didn’t want to bother anyone with his situation.” A private person, Craig did not want anyone to think less of him or that he could not recover from this setback. As a result, he relied on his wife, Melissa, and his children to help him get better. For him, that was all he needed.
Craig would not allow Melissa or his children to take him to radiation because he wanted to be as independent as possible, so he took the hospital bus to and from radiation by himself. Clearly, Craig was determined and “very set in his ways.” His wife and children agreed to support him in doing treatment the way he wanted; however, he had to agree that, if needed, he would take help from his family.
Promisingly, Craig did not have any side effects of the chemo or radiation. His family found him to be in really good spirits throughout treatment. His determination to get back to normal did not waver. In December, 2016, things were going well until he began to suffer from seizures. Craig’s brain was swelling, and the doctors started him on medication. Until the swelling was under control, Craig would experience seizures every 3-4 days. Throughout everything, Craig continued to believe he was going to recover, get back to playing golf and being a dad. In February, the day before he passed, Craig had another MRI. Miraculously, it showed that the cancer was gone and so was the swelling. Craig was on his way to a full recovery and he was looking forward to getting a car and driving again. The following morning, an undetected blood clot in one of his lungs traveled and went straight to his heart causing him to have a heart attack. Although the paramedics did everything they could, he couldn’t be saved. Craig passed away at his home in his oldest son’s arms.
Craig’s legacy is his three children and his work with youth. For many years, he spent both summer and fall on the football field teaching kids the right way to play football and that winning is not everything. While he understood that competition is part of the game, he believed that in life you should have balance. He also wanted every child to get good grades and be respectful to not only their parents, but other people they came in contact with. Craig would share his wisdom through little quotes he would tell the kids. One belief he would often share with the kids was, “You are not measured by the game, but how you conduct yourself on and off the field. Respect is the key to life.”
Thank you for reading Craig’s story. I will be holding Life Celebration mini sessions from June 8th – 22nd. To book your session, click on this link. ALL proceeds from mini sessions booked during this time frame will be donated to Porter Children Educational Fund. If you do not wish participate in the event by having a mini session, please consider donating to Layla, Bryce and Bryant’s educational fund! Thank you!
Layla (pictured on the left) is 13 and she aspires to be a professional ballerina. When she is finished with dance, she plans on attending school to become a neurosurgeon and help people. Bryce (pictured in the middle) is 16 and plans on attending college in the future. He is not sure what he will major in, but since I personally taught and know him, I can guarantee it will be to do something great! Bryant (pictured to the right), the oldest of the trio, is 19 and already in college studying auto mechanics.
I came across this idea years ago. Unfortunately, at the time, my daughter wasn’t old enough to participate. I really thought this might be something she would love. In the months leading up to her 12th birthday, I still had this idea on my radar, but I was a little nervous about it. I mean, what if she wasn’t all that excited about receiving an experience like this for her birthday? Not to mention, there’s one little catch. Between the ages of 12 and 15, children who participate in this activity have to be accompanied by a paying adult. Overall, it wasn’t going to be inexpensive, and I’d hate to invest in something like this and have it be a total flop.
The night before she returned to college in Utah, Della (a former student), came for a visit. We were up late talking about her first semester at college and I pitched the idea to her. When I told Della the idea, her eyes got big. She leaned forward and said, “Are you kidding? I’d love something like that!” Her reaction helped me to make my decision. I decided I was just gonna go for it. As Della and I talked more, the wheels in my head began turning and I came up with an idea. Della’s birthday is also in February and she would be turning 19–she’s legally an adult. Hmm. Sometimes, my former students are forever stuck in my head as 12-year-olds. 🙂 If she could fly out here the weekend of the experience, she could have my ticket, accompany Maddie and enjoy the experience too. The rest was history. We went back and forth coordinating flight possibilities and finally nailed a date, February 18th. We had no idea that the day we picked would end up with the greatest weather in the history of all Februarys in the Midwest!
As Maddie’s birthday neared, I explained to her that her gift this year would solely be an experience. She seemed a little nervous and asked if she would receive any gifts to unwrap on her birthday. Um, no. This was going to be it; she seemed a little disappointed. That’s when I came up with the idea to build some anticipation for her birthday surprise and have a little fun along the way.
On the night of her birthday (Monday, February 13th), she received one box filled with little “gifts,” each that contained a small clue to her birthday experience. She was instructed to open one box each night before she went to bed. I posted each clue on my Facebook page every night to see what others thought the experience might be. It was a lot of fun to see what people guessed. Some of you were so off! 😉 lol
Della brought her best friend, who had never been to Chicago before, and we caught the 5:57 am train the following morning. There’s so much to see in Chicago, you can’t possibly see it all in one day. With that being said, we did get to see a ton thanks to the beautiful 70 degree weather.
Cami and I hung out together while Dell and Maddie were behind the scenes. Trainer for a Day at the Shedd Aquarium is part of the Shedd’s extraordinary experiences program. It lasts 4 hours and there was no photography allowed behind the scenes.
Blue lobster anyone?
Dressed in official trainer attire, Della and Maddie were able to help prepare food for the animals. Food prep accounts for approximately 25% of the trainer’s day. I can see why. The belugas alone eat 50 pounds of fish each every day! While the girls were able to see the penguins, sea otters, sea lions, dolphins and more, it was the belugas that really stole the show. They were super friendly and the girls where able to touch them and “pet” their tongues. They were not able to have this type of interaction with the dolphins because they are young and still a little “nippy.” As for the penguins, they were only allowed to touch them as long as the penguins initiated the interaction. Sounds fair to me. 🙂 One came right up to Maddie and rubbed against her leg.
One big surprise to me was that the Shedd has in-house rescue dogs. The trainers use the same principles of positive reinforcement training the dogs as they do with the sea animals. It was great to see these animals so happy and loved with a second chance at life!
As Cami and I waited for the 11:30 dolphin show Maddie and Della would participate in, we checked things out below ground and went to see “Sea Monsters 4D – A Prehistoric Adventure.” If you visit the Shedd, don’t skip this experience! Its only 15 minutes long, and it was soooo cool we had to see it again with Maddie and Della. If you’ve had a 4D experience before at Disney or somewhere else, it may not be as big of a deal to you, but we laughed through the whole thing and loved it!
The dolphin show is always cool. Keep in mind its more educational than “entertaining” like a Sea World-type show. It was fun to see the girls get to participate in the show while learning new things about the animals. Did ya know that penguins walk with their arms out to help cool their bodies and the trainers feed some of the animals jello to keep them hydrated? Apparently, its one of the dolphins favorite snacks. Who knew? Of course, this is where I caught a shot of Maddie nearly falling into the water with the dolphins. Only my kid!
After all of the fun at the Shedd, we grabbed some authentic Chicago pizza at Gino’s East. (We had to! Cami’s from Arizona and we all know that Chicago “pizza” out there is, well, not really the same thing.) Now, Gino’s is not my favorite pizza, but I have such great memories of going there in high school with my friends that I knew Maddie would really enjoy the experience. Being able to write on things was a super cool and novel experience for her. She took things to a whole new level by writing on the window. D’oh! Don’t worry; I was able to get it off.
You can’t visit Chicago and not check out Millennium Park and Cloud Gate (aka “The Bean”). Its always a cool place to visit. We can’t wait to go back when Crown Fountain opens up in the warmer weather.
We had to stop by Dylan’s Candy Bar and see what all the hype was about. 🙂
There’s always cool looking buildings and sculptures to see along the way.
Of course, these BYU girls had to check out Tribune Tower. My husband’s a history buff and would have loved to see all of the “pieces” of historical monuments embedded into this building.
The last stop in an already packed day was to the top of the Sears Tower Skydeck (aka “Willis”–sorry old habits are hard to break–Willis? Who IS Willis anyway!? :). We got to squeeze, and I mean squeeze, our way onto the Ledge. Seeing Chicago at night with nothing but clear glass beneath and around us was an experience I’ll never forget. It was pretty cool!
And its back to the train station we went. That was quite a fun-filled and packed day! I’m so happy it all worked out. And to think, it snowed the following Saturday! Whew! This couldn’t have gone better!
If you took the time to read this entire blog, I just want to say thank you and that I think you’re pretty cool! 🙂 I have a few fun things in the works for the next month or two. Lens 2 Life Photography will have its first ever little chickadee minis with live chicks or ducklings to celebrate spring. I also have Mother’s Day minis and another photography for beginners workshop in the works. If you are interested when these events become available, please use the code “BLOG20” at checkout for $20 off. Thank you again!
Who has bright blue eyes, is adorable and has a beautiful photographer mama? That’s right; its this guy! Its hard to believe that a year has gone by already and this little man is officially one. Happy 1st birthday little one!
In this case, scoring a zero is a good thing. Dad was peed on three times during this session. Poor guy! This was my first newborn session with multiples and I was slightly anxious, but super excited for the challenge. I did my research, asked for advice through my online newborn photography group, created a flow chart of poses that inspired me, and enlisted help from assistant, Christine Korbel (a.k.a my bestie from college). With the help of my friend and the babies’ mama, I think we were able to safely capture some great images of these little guys. It was very special to get to meet these little men and see first-time parents Kallin and Matt in action. I already know they are great parents, and I don’t just say that to be nice. It’s true. They were calm, patient and worked very nicely as a team. If you didn’t know any better, you would have thought they had been doing this for a long time! Congratulations on your beautiful baby boys! It was an honor to photograph them!